I have found that I am a bit of a Sadist. It is a part of who I am, stitched into the fabric of my desires, the way I find meaning in connection and control. Sadism is not wanton cruelty or meaningless aggression to me — it is trust, power, and a silent connection forged in the space between pleasure and pain. It’s knowing the person in front of me has decided to yield, to surrender themselves with the complete faith that I won’t shatter them, but catch them afterward. And due to that trust, there are things I will never do.

I will never disregard your safe word. It is not a formality, not a weakness sign, but a tool, a word that has the power to bring everything to a screeching halt the moment you need it to. Your voice matters in our dynamic — it is sacred, and I will honor it without question or hesitation.

I will never deny you aftercare. The bruises will fade, the marks will heal, but the emotional rollercoaster that follows a scene is real and needy. If you require being held, being spoken to softly, being left alone in silence, or being cocooned in a warm blanket, I will be there. What we share doesn’t stop when the scene stops.

I will not disregard you, either in scene or in life. Your presence, your safety, your words — they carry weight. You’re not a prop for my Sadism. You’re a partner, a human being with needs and feelings that need to be seen and respected. I will look at you, listen to you, and make room for you.

I will never disregard your body’s signals. Consent is ongoing, and what was acceptable one minute is not necessarily okay the next. Your shudders, your winces, your tension and your tears — they are all languages that it is my responsibility to understand. Your emotional and physical safety will never be secondary.
I will never cross your boundaries. Soft or hard, spoken or unspoken, boundaries are the foundation of trust in the world that we build together. I will find out what they are, honor them, and never transgress them for my own sake.

I will never put you last or make you an afterthought. This bond that we share requires attention, care, and presence from the two of us. You are not some disposable character in my fantasy — you are the missing piece to this story that we build together.

I will never forget to check in with you. Your headspace, comfort, and needs first before, during, and after a scene. The high can be intoxicating, but I will always be grounded in you.

I will never forget sub drop. When adrenaline crashes and vulnerability takes over, I will be there to stabilize you, to remind you that you are loved, cherished, and never alone.

I will never enter a scene without negotiation and boundaries. Play without communication isn’t edgy — it’s dangerous.

I will never use my Sadism as an excuse for abuse. And above all else, I will never ignore your consent.

Because being a Sadist is being responsible, being attentive, and always, always putting care above cruelty.