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“Discovering My Position as a Dom in the BDSM Lifestyle”

“Discovering My Position as a Dom in the BDSM Lifestyle”

As a Dom in the BDSM world, I have often stood at a fork in the road of...

Finding Myself Between Old Guard and New Guard

Finding Myself Between Old Guard and New Guard

When the topic rolls around to the BDSM community today, it sometimes seems as...

The Benefits of Reading a Submissive in a BDSM Scene. Over a purely scripted scene

The Benefits of Reading a Submissive in a BDSM Scene. Over a purely scripted scene

While negotiation, consent, and established boundaries are the foundations of...

Craving the Space Between:

Craving the Space Between:

There is a silence that lives between BDSM scenes. It is not merely the lack...

Thoughts during Dom Drop

Thoughts during Dom Drop

To be a Dominant in the BDSM lifestyle generally comes with the expectation...

“Understanding Sub Drop” and “and How Dominants Can Help Submissives Recover”

“Understanding Sub Drop” and “and How Dominants Can Help Submissives Recover”

In the world of BDSM and the power exchange dynamics, the scenes between...

“Subspace”

“Subspace”

I was asked recently to describe or explain subspace. Now being a Dom,...

“So You’re Watching a Scene”

“So You’re Watching a Scene”

Public kink spaces are designed to foster exploration, education, and...

“What the Dominant Gains in a D/s Relationship”

“What the Dominant Gains in a D/s Relationship”

For a person who has taken on the role of a Dominant in a consensual BDSM...